SFM - The Rules of Engagement
Rule #1: Save the e-flirting until you are absolutely positive you are interested; while recreationally interesting, it can prove to be dangerous and misunderstood.
Rule #2: Take the upper hand, always arrive early, so that you avoid the slow-motion walkup once over.
Rule #3, aka The Ten Minute Rule: Life is short; don't feel an obligation to spend hours visiting with your e-date. Take it from JakeDarlyn: "Sometimes it's best just to move on."
Rule #4: To meet someone on a blind date takes a massive act of courage, so honor that. Thank your date for his time, and then tell him the truth. Gently.
Rule #5: (This is Jake’s rule, you decide - Rule 4 or 5?): " After exercising The Ten Minute Rule, it is not necessary to confirm to the schmuck that he has, in fact, been kicked to the curb." -- JakeDarlyn
Rule #6: Write only to introduce yourself and then meet!
Rule #7: If a man wants to e-mail endlessly, and yet shies away from the face-to-face, cut your losses early. The forum lends itself to the agoraphobic. Truth is, your e-man may only want the notion of a relationship. Remember, you want more!
Rule #8: If a man ever disparages another woman in his correspondence to you, hit the ‘DELETE’ button!
Rule #9: Would be remiss if I didn't say -- BE SAFE. Always meet in public and tell a friend or family member where you are going and when you will be home . If your e-man lives far away, make him come to you and make him get a motel room. If you are interested after the initial date, meet your man in the context of his life - the people in his life will be a good indicator of who he is as a person. AND, should your relationship get to this....ensure that YOU carry protection. Being safe is your responsibility.
Rule #10: The most important of the rules (well, next to safety). Relax and have fun, don't take the journey too seriously. Que sera, sera, what will be will be.